Look at that. Right there, I made a choice to change the way my blog looks just by adding this quote at the top. Wouldn’t it be fabulous if all choices were that easy? When Deepak Chopra writes about Applying the Law of “Karma” or Cause and Effect, he has this to say: Whenever I make a choice, I will ask myself two questions: “What are the consequences of this choice that I’m making? and “Will this choice bring fulfillment and happiness to me and also to those who are affected by this choice?”
How often do we genuinely pause and ponder these two questions? You see the problem is, I think we don’t stop to think about it at all. If you are about to do something, but you have not given much thought as to what happens next, it is best to actually pause and consider this. The last year I was teaching, I made a plan to begin changing my career and go after what I really wanted. I wanted to write, and I found that I had a knack for social media. I knew that the consequences were going to include struggle as I continued to build up a writing portfolio.
The first time I was contacted by an editor who wanted me to submit an even longer piece for publication, I felt the excitement and happiness of my choice. The first time I got a rejection letter in the mail, smeared with some sort of greasy substance, I felt the doubt of my choice. All in all, I knew that my well-being was better off for having made the choice to take a chance. I knew that without a doubt, my life would not change working all the time and coming home too exhausted to write. I am happy with change. Hopefully, my life is about to change again as I am ready for something new.
Sometimes, you do the hard things first just to get them out-of-the-way. Other times, you do them last…putting them off until you can wait no longer. Many people have been broken by the “hard things” as they carry them around. Yesterday in my yoga teacher training, we talked about a burden I still carry. I have gone through a different sort of spiritual awakening and not everyone is going to be there when I am done. I know this. That being said, it doesn’t matter how much you know, how much you prepare yourself mentally for making the hard choices, it still hurts when people closest to you don’t understand, or worse, decide they know what’s best for you in your life and how you should handle a situation.
Because let’s say that the roles were reversed. Would you know how to handle their pain? Their righteousness? Their “programming” as it appears? Chances are, you would not. It never fails to amaze me how many ugly things I see out there on the internet or social media platforms. One in particular happened just last week. An old friend from high school posted something he found funny…in defense of being gay. You know where this is going. He is openly gay…some people from our old way of life were programmed to think differently. It ended up being rather sad…for the hater. Not my friend. He handled it well.
No matter what you think about another person’s way of life or beliefs, I want you to stop for a moment and think about what they have to carry through life. Then think about what you are carrying. Are you helping carry this person’s burden and do you genuinely care about them or are you just trying to persuade them that your beliefs are better than theirs thus adding to their burden?? Getting into an argument on social media and trying to persuade the masses about your way of thinking and how it’s been handed down from the mouth of God Himself helps absolutely no one. What it does instead is send your ego forward. You are no longer thinking with your heart…because if you were, you would understand that this person is carrying their own stuff the best they can and you pointing out their faults is clearly trying to break them down. And honestly, I don’t think God instructs this way. It’s time we stop doing that to each other my friends.
Do you find yourself second guessing everything in your life? Is it difficult to make a decision and stick to it? Do you think everything is about you? Well, then this post is for you…not about you. I recently read that our minds can think up to 50,000 thoughts per day. Half of them are things we have thought before. I added that part, but you know it’s true. So today, I read this post by someone who was sad about something. And while I get the idea of being sad about something someone did…what you must remember at all times is that their actions are really about them. This is the number one hardest thing to get through your 50,000 thoughts.
First, you start to think about yourself and what you did to the person. Next you get mad. You start to blame the person. Then you ponder if you should message them. Something like, hey girl, I saw your post. I hope I didn’t do or say anything to upset you. Now unless you just got off the phone with them and said something like an old fashioned “Your Momma” joke that didn’t go over how you planned, well, you know this isn’t about you. It’s really about them. What you have to decide, right now, at this very moment, is do you want this to be about you? Do you feel guilty for something you did? If the answer is you were just talking about them behind their backs to someone, well I can see how you think it’s about you.
Nine times out of ten, this is not about you. But let’s say it is. Who cares? I mean really. Make a decision to be happy…not to let it get under your skin, and move on to the next thought. Like, what am I going to eat for dinner? Because in the end, you can control that. You can’t really control what this other person is doing or saying. How they act is up to them. How you react is up to you.
Choices. Decisions. The things that can change your life. If you know in your soul what you have to do, just do it. Don’t drag it out my friends as you are setting yourself up for failure…or worse. Stress. Stress is the stuff that blocks your path both figuratively and literally. It makes your head ache, your neck tense and your back hurt. If you had to stop and give a friend advice about your situation, what would you say? I know it doesn’t seem that easy, but it can be. Are you over-analyzing the situation just a wee bit? Chances are…yes. Yes you are. So trust your gut. That’s right. That little thing called intuition…well it’s there for a reason. Now go forth and do that thing you don’t want to do. Be weightless.
So this week has been interesting with the launch of The Wellness Universe website…being asked to write for all kinds of different pages. And getting a phone call that shall remain a mystery for now. But this, this is not going to be kept a secret…
Authoress Tonya Wilson of “The Time Is Now” sheds light Issues Of Addictions, Recovery & Deliverance. On Sunday, January 25, 2015 @ 7:00 PM EST. If You Need Inspiration, Answers, or Support, The Time Is Now! Her Guest Panelist This week is, AIMEE H….Aimee H. is a fighter of invisible diseases (namely her own). She is the Writer of the Blog “The Burned Hand”. She is also the Owner and Operator of Vitalize You. Both are now a part of The Wellness Universe Directory. Join us as she shares an all natural approach to wellness and recovery, The recorded playback is here blog talk radio.
I have connected with many people over the years and I feel most strongly connected to people with illness. But recovery can be many things to many people. It can be drugs, alcohol, pain killers, but it can also be recovery from internal conflicts. Depression, fertility issues, things people cannot see and in no way shape or form have the right to judge your path. So please take a moment to listen in if you have time. If not, I will probably come back and drop a link in this post later with the recording. We’ll see how I sound first. Wink. P.S. Ihaveneverdonethisbeforesodontbejudgingme
But I know you will be cheering me on!!
Happy Blogiversary to us! Without you reading my posts, there wouldn’t be a blog. Ok, that’s not true, I would be lonely, but the truth is, I write for me as I’ve always said. It heals something deep down inside me that was broken the day I found out about my first diagnosis of an “invisible disease” named Porphyria. So without further ado, let’s go back there, shall we? Cue psychedelic swirly things. And poof! We are in 1997. That was the New Year’s Eve all the crazy decided it was time to come out. It started with tests coming back odd…and I thought my life was just beginning with my soon-to-be husband back then. Then I get told about the cervical dysplasia and I admit the word pre-cancerous cells is scary. It just is.
So as we move into 1998, the year does not get any better at that point. I find a man I am madly in love with and now I am falling apart…in more ways than one. That’s when the blisters started. Blisters. Are. Bad. These were not your ordinary ones mind you, well have a read over there at my link. I’ll wait. Humming music in my head. Okay, back on track. See I told you. They used LATIN words. Latin. On me. Who did they think they were dealing with?? I had a B.A. in English and was a researcher. Of course I was going to find out what they trying to hide. And it wasn’t going to be good…but I already knew the that the second she whispered to the other doctor.
Anyway, I consoled myself back then with the fact that out of all the porphyrias, mine seemed to be the less likely to cause internal pain. I didn’t think about the psychological at the time. The fact that I was such a strong person and this was slowly killing me inside. But, I had a wedding to plan so let’s get to the rest of 1998, and how it lingered on. You will want to read that link over there again. I’ll wait for you to catch up because that one includes everyone’s favorite subject. Vampire lore (hint, I do not sparkle, but yes, the burning part is real). I have been told I am ageless. There is some truth to that part of the myth as well. I do get my blood taken for life. But I would not wish this on even the most fervent Twilight fan. P.S. that vamp is dumb. My man Damon Salvatore is much better…in fact any vampire is better than Mr. Sparkle. Just my opinion.
Okay, back to me getting married at this point in my life with pints of blood taken every week, no sunlight, no birth control, no alcohol, and blisters still present. Did I mention my skin burned? Burned all over, but especially my hands. Ding, ding ding! See how I came up with the quote title?? It made perfect sense. Love of literature combined with the horrible stuff going on in my body. Poof. Perfect title. So let’s finish up remembering why I started this blog by reading this post the Summer of 1998. And this my friends, is why I need to finish my book. I believe my story can and does help others feel less alone in this world. And this was just the beginning.
Things you should do more of this year…as the word resolution has never sat well with me.
- Tell someone you love them everyday.
- Laugh daily.
- Make eye contact with a stranger and smile.
- Say thank you and mean it.
- Appreciate the good in your life.
- Start each day on your terms. Decide what the day is going to be like.
- Trust yourself more.
- If the choice is anger or kindness…count down in your head. You’ll make a better choice.
- No self-pity. That’s right. If for one second you start, re-direct your thoughts to the gifts you possess (p.s. harder to do).
- Choose friends who love and approve of you…not bring out the negative.
Some of these might be hard for you to do; however, you can and you must refocus your thoughts this year. It is not time to dwell on what went wrong. What happened is over. Let it be.
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