Last week, my friend was in a terrible car accident that could have been very, very bad. She has whiplash, but her car was totaled. I thanked God when I found out that she and her passenger were able to walk away. A drunk driver did not stop. He did not even seem to see the car and smashed right into her bumper. I read one book nightly, but I don’t usually talk about it here. It is a devotional book that helps me focus my prayers at night. I reflect on things and how to proceed from there.
Last night, my friend was messaging me and we talked about her pain. She said something that was so profound for me, that I want to repeat it, and I know she won’t mind. She said “I want to forget it, but I hurt, so I can’t.” Wow. I knew exactly how she felt. We then talked about a recent situation in my life and she said “Some people have so much pain in their life that they need to slop it over everyone they encounter. They have to keep engaging people with that pain. It is how they communicate.”
I then knew I had done the right thing. I have walked away from two situations that are not mine to fix. They never were. It was never about me at all. I realized that these people like to be reminded of their pain. They like to argue. Nothing I say or do will ever change that. They have to be willing to fix that for themselves and honestly, I don’t know if they can.
Don’t let your words be motivated by pain. Don’t be afraid to walk away from someone who doesn’t deserve your time. Remember what they say about that one bad apple…it really does spoil the bunch.