I am good at listening to my friends. I always “hear” what they don’t say, even if it is just a status update on Facebook. I believe that no matter what, friends should be able to say what they mean to a true friend even if it hurts just a little. I won’t say that I don’t get my feelings hurt, because I do, but I need honesty in my life. If your friend has the ability to admit when he/she is wrong, that is a plus. Humility is an important quality to have. That being said, please don’t hold a grudge if you haven’t ever told your friend what is wrong in the first place. As cool as it might be, I don’t have mind reading abilities…yet.
For those of you wondering if I am talking about anyone in particular, the answer is no. I was thinking how cool and awesome my friends are, seriously, and wanted to point out some of their great qualities. One of my friends has the ability to laugh at herself all the time…this makes me laugh in turn. I really need that. As a matter of fact, if she ever gets another job, I might have to go with her. Hint. Another friend has the generosity of a rich man with a poor man’s purse. She is very open and giving. If you start to say something about you wish you had xyz, she might try to make it happen. Another friend has the ability to come up with ways to keep the kids entertained even if it makes a mess, and I love that about her. They might not all realize what special gifts they have to offer, but I do.
If you ever start to experience a rough patch with a friend, grab a journal and write down what you are feeling so you can think about what might be going on. Are you returning calls in a timely manner? Do you have a new job or person in your life that might make them to feel left out? Do they have some health issues they are not sharing? I once got over a huge bump in the road with one of my dearest friends, and I’ll never forget the day she told me what was bothering her. It wasn’t something I had any control over at all, but she had held it in for so long, it was a relief when she got it out. Just remember, what you don’t say could actually be hurting your friendship, so go ahead and get it out.
“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” ~Thomas Jefferson